Even the best relationships can be difficult to sustain and provide for the needs, expectations, and desires of both partners over time. Troubled relationships are even more difficult to maintain, and one or both partners often feel used, neglected, silenced, squashed, empty, or in the worst cases, abused.
Though being in a relationship is a norm in our culture, few are properly taught how to participate meaningfully in a relationship, including effective ways to communicate, dealing with conflict in fair and respectful ways, negotiating win-win outcomes, and balancing one's personal needs against the needs of the other.
Whether your relationship is new and you want to ensure its effectiveness and well-being into the future, or more mature and struggling under the burden of hurt, disappointment, or betrayal, psychotherapy can help. Especially where both partners are committed and motivated to improve the relationship, vast improvements can be made to transform the relationship into one that is considerably more solid, stable, and mutually satisfying.
HOW IT WORKS
Initial contact is what it sounds like, a phone call or an e-mail. The initial contact allows us to not only get briefly acquainted with one another, but also allows me to have a sense of the struggles that you are facing. Based on its outcome, we then decide whether an initial appointment should be scheduled.
Before the first appointment, you will receive a welcome package. Within it, you will find a brochure about what you can expect when working with me, and information about the basic policies, which are meant to prepare you for psychotherapy. You are also going to be asked to complete some forms, which will help to streamline the administrative paperwork, and save time during your initial session.
During the first few sessions, I will conduct an intake assessment. This involves answering a series of questions to help me get to know you and your history. We will also discuss how psychotherapy can help you and, together, we will decide on some preliminary goals. This is also a good time for you to ask me questions.
The following phase of psychotherapy focused on understanding the struggles and patterns in your relationship. This process involves an in-depth exploration and identification of unhealthy ways of relating to one another. This also entails becoming aware of your emotional, cognitive and behavioural involvement within your relationship, and recognizing what they are demonstrating.
The following phase of psychotherapy focuses on working through the core issues at hand. This process includes dealing with the underlying issues that cause you to be “stuck” in unhealthy patterns; including, facing the painful feelings and experiences that you have been avoiding, working through the destructive ways that you relate to one another, bettering your communication and establishing more a supportive and understanding backdrop to your relationship. This tends to be the hardest part of therapy for most couples, and ultimately determines whether the individuals can work together or not, and whether they wish to remain together or not.
In the final stages of psychotherapy the focus shifts to incorporating these changes into your life. This is a time to evaluate the work and progress made. Together, we will discuss where to go next, and how to get there.
HOW YOU WILL BENEFIT
As a result of working with me, you will achieve the following changes in your relationship:
Change the view of the relationship
Stop the “blame game”
Get on the same page
Improve the way you interact with each other
Communicate more effectively
Become more supportive and understanding toward one another
Have a more meaningful and fulfilling relationship
If these describe what you want in your relationship, there is no reason why you shouldn’t contact me to explore if and how we can work together to help you achieve these changes. Click here to find out how to contact me or call (514) 558-9858 ext. 102.